茄子视频

Skip to main content

Spark

Call her 'memory lane Jane'

Sun, Sep 01, 2019

Lauren Rutherford Befus 鈥03 has holes in her story. Helping others close the holes in theirs is her dream job.

Befus鈥 Grandma Betty Jane lived a rollercoaster life. After she died, her inquisitive granddaughter had questions the rest of the family couldn鈥檛 answer. No one had asked, and Betty Jane hadn鈥檛 told her stories and secrets.

Working at a daily newspaper, Befus met WWII vets who hadn鈥檛 shared their life-shaking experiences either. Later, as a lay pastor officiating at funerals, she heard families tell her over and over, 鈥淲e wish we knew more about him.鈥

Then Befus鈥 father-in-law asked her to write his life story as a Christmas gift for his children. The book she made of his memories 鈥渂rought the house down,鈥 Befus said. 鈥淩ight then I knew I鈥檇 found my dream work.鈥

Befus calls herself a 鈥渓ife storyteller鈥 and her business Memory Lane Jane, a nod to the enigmatic Betty Jane. Her deep conviction: Everybody鈥檚 story is worth telling. 鈥淚鈥檓 just there to sit with someone as they tell the story they want to tell,鈥 she said. She does encourage people to 鈥渢ell the hard parts, too. The successes are great, but what really helps younger generations is knowing how their loved one survived failures, tragedies, and mistakes.鈥

Though families can record their stories themselves, Befus noted they usually don鈥檛. 鈥淥ur lives are busy. We typically don鈥檛 make time to interview our loved ones鈥攁nd then suddenly it鈥檚 too late.鈥

Adding photos, newspaper clippings, recipes, report cards, and other memorabilia, Befus turns each story into a book uniquely designed to reflect the storyteller. When her clients hold the finished book, 鈥渢heir first response is usually surprise and awe,鈥 she said. 鈥淭hey can鈥檛 believe their lives are so beautiful.鈥

Befus added that while at Calvin she heard the same message repeatedly: Every life has value, every life matters. 鈥淭he kindness and respect shown to every person at Calvin fostered kindness and respect in me and led me to this ministry.鈥

For more information, please visit .

bodyimage1